You Don’t Have to Wait for a Crisis to Start Therapy

Deciding whether or not to start therapy can feel like a big step. You might wonder if what you’re going through “counts,” or if things have to be really bad before reaching out. The truth is, therapy isn’t only for moments of crisis. It can be helpful any time you want extra support, perspective, or space to focus on yourself.

Here are a few signs therapy might be a good option for you:

1. You’re feeling overwhelmed

Life stressors, whether from work, relationships, family, or major changes, can build up and leave you feeling like you’re carrying too much. If you find yourself constantly stressed, anxious, or exhausted, therapy can help you find ways to cope and lighten the load.

2. Your usual strategies aren’t working

Maybe you’ve tried talking it through with friends, journaling, or distracting yourself, but nothing seems to bring lasting relief. Therapy can provide new tools and perspectives when what’s worked before isn’t enough anymore.

3. Your emotions feel hard to manage

If you notice frequent mood swings, persistent sadness, irritability, or feeling emotionally “numb,” these are signs you don’t have to navigate things alone. A therapist can help you understand what’s going on beneath the surface and guide you toward healthier patterns.

4. Relationships are being affected

Conflict, disconnection, or repeated patterns in relationships (with a partner, family, friends, or coworkers) are often a reason people start therapy. Exploring these dynamics with a therapist can bring clarity and create healthier ways of relating.

5. You feel “stuck” or disconnected from yourself

Sometimes it’s not about a specific problem, but more of a general sense of being lost, stuck, or unsure of who you are or what you want. Therapy offers a supportive space for self-discovery and growth.

6. You’ve experienced something difficult or traumatic

If you’ve gone through loss, trauma, or a major life change, therapy can help you process your experience and move forward at your own pace.

A gentle reminder:

You don’t have to wait until things feel unbearable to reach out. Seeking therapy is not about being “broken” or “failing”, it’s about giving yourself support, care, and tools to thrive.

If you’re curious about whether therapy could help, you don’t have to decide alone. Many therapists (myself included) offer free consultations so you can ask questions and see if it feels like the right fit.

Spring Cleaning for the Soul: Emotional Clutter and What It Might Be Telling You

As the days grow longer and the earth begins to thaw, many of us feel the urge to clear out—closets, cupboards, inboxes. Spring cleaning can be refreshing, a physical reset after a long winter. But have you ever considered doing the same for your emotional world?

We carry a lot—old stories, unfinished feelings, unspoken needs. Some of it we’ve been holding for so long, it just becomes part of the background. But emotional clutter, like physical clutter, can weigh us down in ways we don’t always recognize.

What Is Emotional Clutter?

Emotional clutter can look like:

• Lingering resentment or hurt that hasn’t been processed

• Beliefs or narratives that no longer serve you (“I have to do it all,” “I’m too much,” “I should be over this by now”)

• Emotional labor you’ve taken on for others, especially if you’re the “strong one” in your relationships

• Guilt or shame you’ve internalized over time

• Old coping strategies that helped you survive—but now leave you feeling stuck

Why We Hold On

Sometimes we hold on to these emotional pieces because they’ve become familiar. Other times, we’re afraid that letting go means forgetting, failing, or being vulnerable. Therapy can be a safe space to gently sort through what’s there—not with judgment, but with curiosity.

What Might “Spring Cleaning” Look Like in Therapy?

In the therapy room (or virtual space), emotional spring cleaning might involve:

• Naming what’s been quietly taking up space

• Exploring where those feelings or beliefs come from

• Releasing things that aren’t yours to carry

• Making space for something new—more rest, more joy, more self-compassion

You don’t have to do it all at once. This isn’t a 30-minute speed-clean—it’s more like tending to a garden, one piece at a time.

A Gentle Invitation

If you’ve been feeling emotionally heavy, disconnected, or stuck, this season might be a good time to check in with yourself. Therapy offers a place to untangle what’s gotten knotted, to honour the parts of you that have been holding on, and to create space for what’s next.

If you’re ready to begin the process of emotional decluttering, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.